Consent is a central part of the BDSM / kink community. We are committed to providing a safe, consent-positive space for all members of The Red Chair. This policy is meant to protect that commitment.
What is Consent?
Consent is a clear agreement between all parties to participate in a given activity. It must be freely given, informed, ongoing, and specific!
All members of TRC are expected to respect everyone's consent regardless of age, ethnicity, gender, orientation, kinks, roles, or relationships. Violations of this policy could result in a friendly warning, a temporary suspension, or even a permanent ban from TRC events.
Violations of this policy could include:
* Harassment or unwanted sexual advances
* Touching someone or their property without permission
* Violation of personal space or boundaries
* Unnegotiated play
* Ignoring a safeword or stated hard limit
* Nonconsensual physical assault or abuse
The best rule to remember is: Ask first! If you don't have explicit consent to do something, don't do it.
Remember, anyone can withdraw consent at any time. If you want to withdraw consent, say so! As soon as anyone withdraws consent for something, it should stop immediately. At the TRC playspace, the simplest way is to use the house safeword: "Red!" If someone says, "Red!" during a scene, a dungeon monitor will check in to make sure everything is okay.
To report a consent violation:
1) Fill out our online Consent Incident Report Form here, or using the buttons below. Only report what happened to you personally, please. If something happened to a friend, have them fill out the form.
2) If you need to talk to someone right away, you can speak with any TRC officer or director. At a party, you can speak with the MOD. They are listed on the whiteboard by the front office, or you can ask the front desk staff. Afterward, please fill out the report form anyway!
3) A member of leadership will contact you for more information. If the incident involves a member of TRC leadership, there is a separate form via the link, so that that person will not receive the report.
How we respond to a consent violation report is at the discretion of TRC leadership. It will depend on what happened, and the wishes of the people involved. No one is exempt from this policy - not even our officers or directors. We all need to respect consent, and we hold our leaders accountable for that.
Stay safe, have fun, and if you have questions, just ask!